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Post by tanyahyde on Dec 1, 2005 8:21:36 GMT
My problem is that a couple of very close relations won't accept the gifts we want to give them to celebrate their 'big' birthdays. We don't 'do' pressies with them.
Firstly, we invited them to one of our favourite eateries for a meal. Brother-in-law insisted on 'going Dutch'. Oh 'eck !
At that time we gave them gifts too, which they took - but not happily, and only as I assured them that it would be 10 years before they got another one!
However, yesterday a cheque came from them, with a lovely little note saying that this was their "revenge".
They are retired and therefore don't have much income - nowadays at any rate.
My advice - what should I do? I feel that it would be churlish not to accept the cheque (although we don't want it), but what should I write by way of thanks?
Don't know if this throws any light on it, but they are a lot older than us.
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Post by sallydickins on Dec 1, 2005 9:29:01 GMT
Oo, could be tricky. How about saying thankyou and just not getting round to banking said cheque?
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Post by diddy on Dec 1, 2005 15:54:18 GMT
Tell them, politely, that their refusal to accept gifts offends you and that you're not going to cash the cheque? If they want to be funny about it, fine, but don't let them make you feel bad about wanting to give.
Either that, or have the cheque framed and then tell them how much you enjoyed the gift of a piece of modern art!
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Post by Beau Leggs on Dec 1, 2005 16:40:23 GMT
I would go along with the framing of the check, maybe along with a picture of them.
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Post by rolandbutter on Dec 1, 2005 16:46:19 GMT
For your next present to them you could do worse than go *here*
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Post by tanyahyde on Dec 1, 2005 18:24:57 GMT
Thanks for that.
Mentioning it today to colleagues, apparently there are lots of people out there who cannot accept gifts without giving in return, even when the reason for the gift is to celebrate something for them, and them alone.
Wonder why? Psychologists please step forward!
However, nexts Togs bash, the drinks are on me. O.K.?
Voddie for you and Lily, Daxie? Remy for Ivy -
Anyone else wanna drink?
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Post by Daxie on Dec 1, 2005 18:29:03 GMT
Tell them, politely, that their refusal to accept gifts offends you and that you're not going to cash the cheque? If they want to be funny about it, fine, but don't let them make you feel bad about wanting to give. Either that, or have the cheque framed and then tell them how much you enjoyed the gift of a piece of modern art! What a brilliant idea !!! That way no ones feelings are hurt...lol
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Post by carlott on Dec 1, 2005 18:40:14 GMT
I like Roland's suggestion best. But make sure that you let them know you have done it.
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Post by smiglet on Dec 2, 2005 10:07:46 GMT
Thanks for the link Roland - I just wonder what LadySmig will make of the two goats I've just bought in her name??
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Post by Ken Woodmixer on Dec 2, 2005 10:42:57 GMT
For your next present to them you could do worse than go *here*A great idea... Rob
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Post by hellenbach on Dec 2, 2005 10:44:53 GMT
For your next present to them you could do worse than go *here*thanks for that Roland, I have been so busy, I haven't had chance to look for that site.
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Post by Ken Woodmixer on Dec 2, 2005 11:06:37 GMT
Of course Tanya, - you could always punt it in the direction of a certain ahem....cyclist..... ;D
Rob
PS: Anybody up for a beer in the chatroom around 6 ish ?
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Post by Norman Address-Supplied on Dec 2, 2005 18:30:03 GMT
Thanks for that. However, nexts Togs bash, the drinks are on me. O.K.? Voddie for you and Lily, Daxie? Remy for Ivy - Anyone else wanna drink? Can I claim a drink too, please, on the basis that I posted the link on the Serious Board last week? I'm not proud ! Norm
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Post by diddy on Dec 2, 2005 18:48:09 GMT
Thanks for that. However, nexts Togs bash, the drinks are on me. O.K.? Voddie for you and Lily, Daxie? Remy for Ivy - Anyone else wanna drink? Can I claim a drink too, please, on the basis that I posted the link on the Serious Board last week? I'm not proud ! Norm Well, get your @r5e along to Windsor tomorrow! Jeez, I'll give you a lift if you're that hard up!
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Post by ivy noidea on Dec 4, 2005 18:25:11 GMT
Can I claim a drink too, please, on the basis that I posted the link on the Serious Board last week? I'm not proud ! Norm Well, get your @r5e along to Windsor tomorrow! Jeez, I'll give you a lift if you're that hard up! And did he?
Did 'e 'eck as like!
Was good to see YOU there Didier
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Post by Anne Tique on Jan 29, 2023 20:45:36 GMT
My problem is that a couple of very close relations won't accept the gifts we want to give them to celebrate their 'big' birthdays. We don't 'do' pressies with them. Firstly, we invited them to one of our favourite eateries for a meal. Brother-in-law insisted on 'going Dutch'. Oh 'eck ! At that time we gave them gifts too, which they took - but not happily, and only as I assured them that it would be 10 years before they got another one! However, yesterday a cheque came from them, with a lovely little note saying that this was their "revenge". They are retired and therefore don't have much income - nowadays at any rate. My advice - what should I do? I feel that it would be churlish not to accept the cheque (although we don't want it), but what should I write by way of thanks? Don't know if this throws any light on it, but they are a lot older than us. Just send the money to me (bank transfer will be fine) - then we’ll both feel better.
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